What are the Benefits of Saying “No”?

Saying no can be one of the hardest things we do. Many of us want to make people happy and do what we can, but sometimes we simply need to tell people no.

While it may make you feel bad, there are actually positive and even healthy benefits to saying no more often. What are these benefits? Keep reading to find out.

3 Benefits of Saying “No”

  1. Valuing Yourself

If you feel stretched thin and can’t take on one more thing, you are doing a disservice to yourself by saying yes to the next thing. Saying no is a form of self-love and self-care. There’s a chance you won’t enjoy what you’ve just said yes to or participate fully; by being more selective about what you agree to, you’re able to do what you actually want to do with a full heart.

  1. Making Better Decisions

Another wonderful part of saying no, is it will help you make better decisions.  According to Theo J Ellis, “You make a conscious decision and weigh it up before you blurt out your answer. Doing that consistently will force you to make smarter, better, wiser decisions. You’ll weigh up the value of each request based on what’s true to you and what makes sense.”

When you’re not overwhelmed, you have the time to make a well-considered decision and feel strong about your response.

  1. Saying No is Brave

It’s often intimidating to respond directly to someone with a no and look them in the eye. As intimidating as this may be, it’s a brave act because you are standing up for yourself. Live Happy wants you to remember this: “Consider each time you say no, without a hedge or explanation, to be a brave act of self-respect.”

4 Tips for Saying No

You may need some help saying no, even though you know it’s important. Here are some tips from Entrepreneur that can help you out when you’re in need:

  1. Do it Fast. If you have to tell someone no, do it as quickly as possible. This way, they aren’t waiting on you and can move on with their needs or plans.
  2. Don’t Lie. You don’t have to come up with an elaborate excuse to why you’re saying no; just be honest.
  3. Provide Alternatives. Bring up someone who might be able to assist in what you’re being asked to do if possible.
  4. Ask for a Reschedule. If it’s something you want to do but you don’t have the time, see if plans can be changed for another day; this way, you can have your cake and eat it too.

Are you ready to face the world? Saying no is challenging, but the more you do it, the more you take care of yourself, improve your decision making and become more brave. How do you handle saying no in your life?

What Are the Benefits to Keeping Commitments?

Do you keep commitments to yourself and others?

You’ve likely promised you would help someone or be at a certain place at a certain time for him or her. Do you always follow through on these commitments? Following through with friends and family is important to building and maintaining healthy relationships with the ones we love, but did you know flaking on others can actually impact you, too

As Psychology Today notes, “It is impossible to follow through on every single [commitment] you make in life, but how many you break and how you handle it when you do is key to understanding yourself.”

Psychology Today is right to mention that it is inevitable that in your life you may have to cancel or not fulfill a promise you made to someone – and that’s ok. What’s important is that you not only do you best to come through on your commitments, but also be careful not to over promise in the first place. This will only lead to disappointment from others and within yourself.

Benefits of Keeping Commitments

Did you know that there are health and social benefits to keeping your commitments? Here are three reasons from Elite Daily to say and do what you mean.

1.    Display Accountability

When you keep yourself accountable others will notice. Friends, family and even employers will see that you are taking care of yourself and will trust you with their needs.

2.    Understand Your Worth

Elite Daily states, “If you can keep commitments to yourself, you are more likely to hold others to the same standards. You won’t tolerate people in your life who continuously blow you off because you know how important it is to stand by your word.”

This is so important to standing up for yourself and taking care of yourself. If you’re constantly late, it can be hard to talk to a friend about being on time. When you keep yourself accountable to appointments, you can speak to someone about how rude and disrespectful waiting a half hour or more is.

3.    Create a Routine

Routines may feel boring, but they are so important to keeping daily commitments. You don’t want to always be running late for work or an appointment, right? When you establish a routine, you can get ready and prepare for your next obligation without being rushed or showing up late.

Keep Commitments and Be Accountable

As I state in The Mystery of Time is Who You Are:

Throughout the day, reflect on your motivations and this will keep you

in touch with what you want to achieve. Fuzzy thinking and lukewarm

commitments will not help you achieve what you want, no matter how

passionate your hopes.

It takes active time and energy to keep promises to others, but more importantly, yourself.

How do you want others to see you? How do you want to see yourself? Being a flake and dropping all sense of responsibility isn’t healthy for relationships and it’s certainly not a healthy way to live.

What do you do to keep commitments for yourself? I look forward to hearing from you.

What Are the Benefits of Being Alone?

Did you know there are benefits to being alone?

When it comes to going to the movies, dinner or any activity really, we typically look for someone to go with us. And more often than not, if we can’t find anyone to accompany us, we don’t do the activity at all.

A study in the Journal of Consumer Research, reported by The Atlantic, found that the reason people decide not to do anything at all is because they were worried the public would think they didn’t have any friends.

What other people think should not dictate how we live our lives!

While breaking the ice and doing something alone in public may be scary, it is an important barrier to cross. Keep reading for reasons and benefits it’s good to be alone.

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Tips for Personal Success: What You Need to Know

How do you find personal success?

St. Patrick’s Day just came and went, and that got me thinking about luck. What does it mean to be lucky and how much does it have to do with personal success? Is life about luck or preparation?

As I state in Exuberant Women Don’t Age:

Through realistic positive expectations you gain the power to go beyond limiting beliefs and attitudes. Positive expectations enable you to move through feelings of fear, failure, and all of the “I Can’t Do Its.” With positive expectations you gain intensity, excitement, ambition, imagination, and dynamic spirit soul energy needed to realize your goals. Positive expectations help to make your goals a reality when you believe in them heart, mind, and soul and with a solid game plan.

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How Do You Experience Self-Love?

Woman sitting with flowers and a notebook.

How do you show self-love?

February is often thought of as the month of love. We spend the month showering people we care about with affection, but what about embracing self-love year-round?

Giving flowers and chocolates to loved ones are thoughtful gestures that show you care, but forgetting about yourself can cause harm to your wellbeing. As I so strongly believe, before you can honestly love yourself you need to be clear about what love feels like to you.

As I share in my book, Exuberant Women Don’t Age:

Love is the ability to say to yourself,

“Thank you for who you are, just as you are.”

It is an abiding attitude of gratitude,

no matter what is taking place in your life.

Love is your heart’s breath because love is

the heartbeat of your life.

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How to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution

Write down your goals and resolutions for success!

It’s almost the end of January and many people may have dropped their New Year’s resolution like a bad habit, instead of adopting a good one like they were hoping to pick up.

If you are still holding on to yours or want to try again, here are a few tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolution.

3 Tips to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution 

  1. Write Them Down

If you made a goal at the beginning of the year, is it still floating around your brain? There have been studies to show that writing down a resolution can significantly improve the odds of success. It’s important to be specific, reasonable and take a look at your plan to remind you of your resolutions throughout the year. 

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How to Create Meaningful New Year’s Resolutions

We’re quickly approaching the New Year and with it comes a sense of joy, renewal and happiness. If you are searching for ways to become a better you, I recommend creating some simple and meaningful New Year’s resolutions to help keep your goals on track in 2018. How can you be sure to follow through with your plans? Keep reading for my advice.

Happy 2018!

3 Steps to Forming New Year’s Resolutions

  1. Determine Your Goal

Are you creating New Year’s resolutions because you feel like you have to, or because you want to? As Spire&Co explains, “The point isn’t what you’re making your New Year’s resolutions. It’s about who you’re making them for and why you’re making them. When we simply write out a list of the things we think we should do and don’t really and truly want for ourselves, we seldom experience success. A feeling of obligation towards resolutions from the outside world rarely breeds positive, sustainable change.” Believe it or not, it’s okay to skip resolutions if you don’t feel like they’ll add value to your life.

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3 Ways to Express Gratitude This Holiday Season

It’s time to talk gratitude. Now that we’re into the heart of the holiday season, it’s the perfect time to take stock of your life and relationships and say, “Thank you!” What are you most grateful for this year? While it’s important to show your gratitude all year round, the holidays are a particular time of thanksgiving. Here’s how you can show those around you that you care.

thankful on leaves

What are you thankful for?

Share Your Gratitude with the World in 3 Simple Ways

  1. Take the “Post-It Note Challenge”

Have you heard of this fun way to express your gratitude this holiday season? The “Post-It Note Challenge” is a great way to leave compliments and say thank you to those in your life. Here’s how it works: carry a pad of sticky notes and a pen around town and when someone does a nice thing or you want to give them a compliment, write it down and leave the note for them to find. You can do this anonymously or sign your name, but the purpose is to think about moments that bring you joy and share your thoughts with others.

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The Importance of Living in the Moment

Are you living in the moment, making the most of every second you have to live on Earth? You can never make up for lost time, but you can live in the sacredness of right now, realizing that this is your point of power. You are born into the human mystery called TIME. Throughout this crazy journey we call life, we measure our moments in time, beginning with birth: we record the day, hour, year and location you enter the world, which begins your unique history.

The Trap of Waiting for Happiness

Most of your life is spent in waiting for something to happen, or not to happen, and in the intensity of this waiting you can miss countless opportunities as precious time speeds by. This cycle of waiting will devour your life with anticipating, dreaming, hoping and planning for the next moment, because there’s an illusion that what you want to do next is more important than what you are doing now.

As you age, you begin to count your blessings that you are still intact mentally, physically and emotionally. Through this realization, your life will become simpler and you will have more reason to be content. When you wait for what is next, you lose the joy of now; the remedy is living in the moment.

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Life Lessons: How to Find Your Purpose

Are you feeling lost in life, like you don’t have a purpose? Every season you experience from birth to death has a purpose, and it may take a lifetime to understand this. Just as every season has its ebb and flow, we also have a deep need for balance as human beings, as does our planet Earth. Every season is filled with aliveness and purpose, and this is our ideal for daily life. Read on to learn how to find your purpose and cultivate your talents into a beautiful existence.

Have you found your purpose?

Finding Your Purpose in Life

Without a purpose, life becomes meaningless; it exhausts your spirit and dissipates your passion for living. On the converse, purposefulness intensifies energy, excitement and the exuberant fire of youth. Your purpose gives you a reason for living and the courage to change and grow. It empowers you to move beyond the limits of what you think you can do and what you feel you can become. With purposefulness you acquire the ability to be clear-minded and self-determined.

Your Purpose is Your Meaning

Your purpose gives meaning to everything you do. It affects how you think and how you feel about yourself, and is related to what you emotionally feel you deserve. When you are committed to your purpose, when it is reinforced with self-confidence and self-esteem, you will succeed. 

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