Personal improvement is one of the longest and ongoing parts of our lives. It is essential we invest in personal improvement and work on it every single day. One of the most necessary aspects of personal improvement is to develop inner strength.
What is inner strength? As The Daily Pioneer explains, “Inner strength, also called atmabala, is the strength of the soul. It is the core strength of a person, while mental strength is simply the strength of the mind. And we know that we, souls, are different from our minds. We have minds, which we use for feeling, thinking and willing.”
Failure may be a part of life, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t hurt. When you work hard, put your all into something and it doesn’t work out; that can be heartbreaking. From a misstep to a failure, it’s important to learn from each outcome.
As I state in my book, Exuberant Women Don’t Age:
Failure is only a temporary shift in direction.
Failure is the honest assurance that you are a
success for trying and for taking chances.
As you learn through your day-to-day experience,
your failures turn into success.
Like I said, you have to learn from failure to find success. What can you learn from failure? Keep reading to find out.
Did you know that July is Picnic Month? This offers a wonderful excuse to go out in the great outdoors. Unfortunately, many of us don’t get to go outside very much, let alone play outside.
Between work, family and obligations inside homes, there’s rarely a free moment to get a breath of fresh air. While you may be busy, it is important that you spend time outdoors for your health. Keep reading for reasons why.
3 Health Benefits of Going Outside
- Mental Health
As reported by The Huffington Post, a Stanford University study found that walking for 90 minutes in nature, compared to walking in the city, made a difference in mental health. A Stanford study also, “Found that those who walked in nature experienced less anxiety, rumination (focused attention on negative aspects of oneself), and negative affect, as well as more positive emotions, such as happiness.”
Saying no can be one of the hardest things we do. Many of us want to make people happy and do what we can, but sometimes we simply need to tell people no.
While it may make you feel bad, there are actually positive and even healthy benefits to saying no more often. What are these benefits? Keep reading to find out.
3 Benefits of Saying “No”
- Valuing Yourself
If you feel stretched thin and can’t take on one more thing, you are doing a disservice to yourself by saying yes to the next thing. Saying no is a form of self-love and self-care. There’s a chance you won’t enjoy what you’ve just said yes to or participate fully; by being more selective about what you agree to, you’re able to do what you actually want to do with a full heart.
- Making Better Decisions
Another wonderful part of saying no, is it will help you make better decisions. According to Theo J Ellis, “You make a conscious decision and weigh it up before you blurt out your answer. Doing that consistently will force you to make smarter, better, wiser decisions. You’ll weigh up the value of each request based on what’s true to you and what makes sense.”
When you’re not overwhelmed, you have the time to make a well-considered decision and feel strong about your response.
- Saying No is Brave
It’s often intimidating to respond directly to someone with a no and look them in the eye. As intimidating as this may be, it’s a brave act because you are standing up for yourself. Live Happy wants you to remember this: “Consider each time you say no, without a hedge or explanation, to be a brave act of self-respect.”
4 Tips for Saying No
You may need some help saying no, even though you know it’s important. Here are some tips from Entrepreneur that can help you out when you’re in need:
- Do it Fast. If you have to tell someone no, do it as quickly as possible. This way, they aren’t waiting on you and can move on with their needs or plans.
- Don’t Lie. You don’t have to come up with an elaborate excuse to why you’re saying no; just be honest.
- Provide Alternatives. Bring up someone who might be able to assist in what you’re being asked to do if possible.
- Ask for a Reschedule. If it’s something you want to do but you don’t have the time, see if plans can be changed for another day; this way, you can have your cake and eat it too.
Are you ready to face the world? Saying no is challenging, but the more you do it, the more you take care of yourself, improve your decision making and become more brave. How do you handle saying no in your life?
You’ve likely promised you would help someone or be at a certain place at a certain time for him or her. Do you always follow through on these commitments? Following through with friends and family is important to building and maintaining healthy relationships with the ones we love, but did you know flaking on others can actually impact you, too
As Psychology Today notes, “It is impossible to follow through on every single [commitment] you make in life, but how many you break and how you handle it when you do is key to understanding yourself.”
Psychology Today is right to mention that it is inevitable that in your life you may have to cancel or not fulfill a promise you made to someone – and that’s ok. What’s important is that you not only do you best to come through on your commitments, but also be careful not to over promise in the first place. This will only lead to disappointment from others and within yourself.
Benefits of Keeping Commitments
Did you know that there are health and social benefits to keeping your commitments? Here are three reasons from Elite Daily to say and do what you mean.
1. Display Accountability
When you keep yourself accountable others will notice. Friends, family and even employers will see that you are taking care of yourself and will trust you with their needs.
2. Understand Your Worth
Elite Daily states, “If you can keep commitments to yourself, you are more likely to hold others to the same standards. You won’t tolerate people in your life who continuously blow you off because you know how important it is to stand by your word.”
This is so important to standing up for yourself and taking care of yourself. If you’re constantly late, it can be hard to talk to a friend about being on time. When you keep yourself accountable to appointments, you can speak to someone about how rude and disrespectful waiting a half hour or more is.
3. Create a Routine
Routines may feel boring, but they are so important to keeping daily commitments. You don’t want to always be running late for work or an appointment, right? When you establish a routine, you can get ready and prepare for your next obligation without being rushed or showing up late.
Keep Commitments and Be Accountable
As I state in The Mystery of Time is Who You Are:
Throughout the day, reflect on your motivations and this will keep you
in touch with what you want to achieve. Fuzzy thinking and lukewarm
commitments will not help you achieve what you want, no matter how
passionate your hopes.
It takes active time and energy to keep promises to others, but more importantly, yourself.
How do you want others to see you? How do you want to see yourself? Being a flake and dropping all sense of responsibility isn’t healthy for relationships and it’s certainly not a healthy way to live.
What do you do to keep commitments for yourself? I look forward to hearing from you.
When it comes to going to the movies, dinner or any activity really, we typically look for someone to go with us. And more often than not, if we can’t find anyone to accompany us, we don’t do the activity at all.
A study in the Journal of Consumer Research, reported by The Atlantic, found that the reason people decide not to do anything at all is because they were worried the public would think they didn’t have any friends.
What other people think should not dictate how we live our lives!
While breaking the ice and doing something alone in public may be scary, it is an important barrier to cross. Keep reading for reasons and benefits it’s good to be alone.
St. Patrick’s Day just came and went, and that got me thinking about luck. What does it mean to be lucky and how much does it have to do with personal success? Is life about luck or preparation?
As I state in Exuberant Women Don’t Age:
Through realistic positive expectations you gain the power to go beyond limiting beliefs and attitudes. Positive expectations enable you to move through feelings of fear, failure, and all of the “I Can’t Do Its.” With positive expectations you gain intensity, excitement, ambition, imagination, and dynamic spirit soul energy needed to realize your goals. Positive expectations help to make your goals a reality when you believe in them heart, mind, and soul and with a solid game plan.
February is often thought of as the month of love. We spend the month showering people we care about with affection, but what about embracing self-love year-round?
Giving flowers and chocolates to loved ones are thoughtful gestures that show you care, but forgetting about yourself can cause harm to your wellbeing. As I so strongly believe, before you can honestly love yourself you need to be clear about what love feels like to you.
As I share in my book, Exuberant Women Don’t Age:
Love is the ability to say to yourself,
“Thank you for who you are, just as you are.”
It is an abiding attitude of gratitude,
no matter what is taking place in your life.
Love is your heart’s breath because love is
the heartbeat of your life.
It’s almost the end of January and many people may have dropped their New Year’s resolution like a bad habit, instead of adopting a good one like they were hoping to pick up.
If you are still holding on to yours or want to try again, here are a few tips to help you stick to your New Year’s resolution.
3 Tips to Stick to Your New Year’s Resolution
- Write Them Down
If you made a goal at the beginning of the year, is it still floating around your brain? There have been studies to show that writing down a resolution can significantly improve the odds of success. It’s important to be specific, reasonable and take a look at your plan to remind you of your resolutions throughout the year.