Compliments are one of the most extraordinary components of social life. All it takes is a few simple words to generate so much positive energy that, according to an article published in Psychology Today, receiving them increases productivity, decreases stress, pain and insomnia, benefits the immune system and boosts production of serotonin.
Those giving compliments also benefit. The same researcher found that individuals who regularly participated in acts of kindness not only lived longer, but experienced less pain as well as lower levels of heart disease, depression and anxiety.
Even those who simply witness the exchange will benefit from it in a phenomenon known as the “Mother Theresa Effect.” Researchers at Harvard University noticed the phenomenon after study participants experienced a marked increase in saliva Immunoglobin A levels – an antibody which affects immune function.
7 Reasons Why You Should Give Compliments
Medical benefits aside, here are seven great reasons from Lifehack on why you should compliment someone every day.
It Takes The Focus Off You
If you find yourself in a negative thought spiral, paying a compliment is a great way to shift your attention and energy from all the things going wrong in your day and put it towards improving someone else’s.
Smiling Burns Calories
And smiling often leads to laughing, which burns even more.
Compliments Spark Creativity
Finding something positive to say to someone at least once a day has to the power to remove, say, that person’s mental block around a big project they’ve been struggling with and clear the pathways for them to get to the solution. While this drastic change might not happen to each person who receives a compliment from you, you will undoubtedly create a space for them to think differently from that moment on. Small acts of kindness go a long way.
You Can’t Actually Kill Someone With Kindness
We’ve all heard the phrase, “Kill them with kindness.” Well, if the fear of killing someone with kindness has prevented you from giving compliments to a person, I hereby release you from said fear.
Kindness could quite possibly kill a bad mood or a bad memory, but it will not kill you or the person who is the recipient of the kindness. Don’t believe me? Try it! Be nice to someone right now and see what happens.
Sincere Compliments Build Trust
Each one of us walking the planet has the desire to be acknowledged. When someone else notices even the slightest positive thing about another person, it can reinforce that, “Hey! Someone noticed me!” We all need someone in our lives we can trust, and the more we build up others, the more we’re also building up ourselves.
What Goes Around Comes Around
When you give compliments, you’re more than likely going to get one in return. And like we just saw in reason number five, when someone notices you, you’ll feel special – even if it’s just for a moment. That moment could be enough to carry you the rest of the day and keep you happy and productive. You’ll be happier, your co-workers will be happier and pretty soon the whole office staff is happy.
Compliments Are Free
Do I really need to say more? It costs nothing but a moment of your time to make someone else’s day that much better.
Do you remember the best compliment you ever received? Giving the gift of acknowledgement and appreciation may seem simple, but it’s an invaluable skill that can set ripples into motion that will last for years.